the kids are finally at school, and i find myself alone in my house for what feels like the first time in recent memory. quiet, except for the hum of the refrigerator and the dog’s occasional sigh in hopes of our morning walk. i know the bathrooms need cleaning and there is laundry to fold (letting go of  hired cleaning help seemed like a prudent financial decision–until now). there is oatmeal on the kitchen counter, coffee spilled on the wood floor, unfinished projects, and lack of sleep in my eyes.

the anxiety is ramped higher than it has been in a while. unwelcome thoughts confusing fear with intuition. i’m looking up to see if shoes are falling from the sky.

while on retreat, i professed my intention to really welcome, to claim, the grace and abundance of my life. the renewal of my marriage; the love, passion, and hunger i never imagined we’d feel again. my children and their staggering many intelligences and beauty (still can’t believe that neither of them got the big nose). our opportunities for travel, connection, friendships. the simple accounting of the amazing people i know and have met. this place i live, these things i have. calla lilies by the blue front door. an ocean down the street.

when i chased the sunrise in my pajamas in the frosty cotswolds last weekend, i had one of those moments of spontaneous joy and gratitude. there were tears and i whispered thank you, thank you, thank you. funny how just a week later, i can sit here just wishing to feel that again.

they say gratitude is a practice. remembering our connection is why we practice.

i think i’ll take this knot in my belly up the mountain now and do my best to leave it there. an offering to the choosing. to the remembering. to the laundry, the oatmeal, the love, the chaos, the plans, the fears, the figments and the apparitions. to this life that is mine.

better to light a candle than to curse the darkness. ~chinese proverb

photos: yesterday’s instragrams. follow me there @doorwaystraveler

we debated the existence of god and burned messages to the universe, drank fresh green juice and ate 6 kinds of chocolate. we wore our best lounge wear paired with fantastic jewelry. we burned the fire all weekend and walked in the cold crisp air. we were visited by a magical fox and let go of the past year. i chased the sunrise in my flannel pajamas and lie under the stars thanking whoever and whatever is out there for the grace and abundance in my life. we all showed up just as we are, connected,  and came away with just what we needed. i am home now, jet lagged but without longing. because i know they are still with me. and we’ll return to our hidden cottage in the cotswolds for years to come.

photos: annual weekend in a cotswold cottage with the fantastic bbc. jo, emma, megg, sus, sas, pen, and leonie: i love you.

fire. wine. my cashmere sweater that goes all the way to my knees. the right soundtrack, mercury glass, my children’s art. avocados still on their branches and clementines in a hand-thrown bowl with a blue patina at the center of our well-worn table. thick lentil soup that sticks to the inside, a friend on the way over. the stuff of my life. my home.

it was a fall of inversion. of hermiting and long mornings spent trying to breathe more freely. of asking for help, opening my fist, and resting my head on the floor. i paid attention to the birds, to the rain, to the bright reds and purples of the latest sunsets. i threw a few tantrums and we tangled ourselves under the down comforter at the end of each day and i learned to rest. to really rest.

this is the longest gap between entries since i first began blogging. as you know, the more time passes, the more it feels like there is just too much to say. or not enough.

and so i offer a few images of the past month. the time wherein i emerged from the dark, after going all the way in, and simply began to love my life.

the boy is now 12.

breakfasts have mattered. a lot.

the beast and i have been hiking. often.

the girl is behind the wheel. enough said.

time on the mountain top with my love.

sunrises with community.

and sunsets, too.

sigh.

and you, friends? how are you wrapping up the season?

it is not unfamiliar, this place.

though i have grown weary of it.

noisy and sharp, inhibiting rest. ego on alert, fables and accusations running rampant.

i only want to feel at ease. elemental. not wondering if i lit the right candle, said the right prayer, or missed the portal.

it might be hormones, or darker shades of what i have always known.

(fear, unexpressed pain, hunger, loneliness, grief, anger, shame–whatever)

only now, i refuse to consider that i haven’t “worked” hard enough. or that i haven’t sat in the fire long enough. or that i am lazy, inconsistent, uncommitted, or indulgent. that i am faint of heart.

i am none of those things.

though there are plenty of arrow wounds that suggest i have believed otherwise.

this is the day that i begin to understand. that i challenge the separation that bores canyons in me.

separation from source. from love. from beauty. from you.

i think that salvation is in the letting out. the letting go. the letting in.

the allowing.

and the help.

(the tree, the camera, the nourishment, the time, the forgiveness, the care, the now, the us)

photo: shelter. 11.11.11. butterfly beach, santa barbara. iphone.